So let’s face it, we were born into this world alone and we leave alone. There may always be ones by our side but it really is just us. We have our family of origin and how we were raised; we grow up get a little education and then go to work. Soon we pick a career and sometime during that time we usually fall in love a time or two.

There is a logical progression from childhood where we first learn our social skills, adding education, and then choosing a career or job employment and all the interactions with the boss, the company, and your coworkers – there are plenty of dynamics. Generally speaking, nowhere in our lives does somebody teach how to be in relationship from a healthy perspective. Very few adults view their parents as great role models and want to create the kind of relationship their parents had or have. It’s time to embrace the fact that intimacy and intimate relationships require a different set of skills than we use with our brothers and sisters, peers or our coworkers. The most interesting part of this equation is men and women are learning the same things but from opposite perspectives; so let’s break this down!

As a general rule, girls and women are natural nurturers, mothers and protectors. In fact, every human being comes through a woman. They have a natural tendency to be responsible, and/or care for others. Without mothers, our numbers would dwindle as a human population. This is just the way it is – it’s not right or wrong. Women have a natural intuition and insights to take care of others. Many take these qualities into business management and leadership positions, with great success.  The challenge comes when a woman enters into a relationship with a man. Her same instincts of caring for others, sacrificing herself and over responsibility remain prominent. Most of these women in their forties figure out that they are very unfulfilled in their relationship and they are tired at the lack of reciprocity. They are finished fixing, healing, rescuing and enabling wounded partners.

The male scenario is quite different; he is out in the trenches battling the wolves, making the deals, putting together big contracts in dealing with all the cutthroat business tactics that exist in corporate America, as well as a small business. He fights, he claws, he struggles for the money he makes and brings home, of which he is proud of. If he makes a whole lot of money now he has even more power to get what he wants, sex. Deep inside he feels some sort of entitlement or, you owe me, because he is providing wealth and abundance to those around him. He feels like he is owed and should be taken care of when he comes home from work after another grueling day. What he doesn’t realize is his dear wife has been cleaning house, raising kids, shuttling kids and working harder and longer for no pay. Both are doing their part and are exhausted.

When each partner in the relationship applies the skills of their daily life to their relationship it is generally not a recipe for success. He can be demanding and impatient; she feels like she has to keep giving and is worn out.

A conscious relationship is a being – an entity unto itself, which is open to what each partner wants to put into it; almost like a separate business venture to the man or to the woman a different family because their dynamic goes deeper is juicier and involves the exchange of bodily fluids. There are some key questions each partner needs to embrace.

The giving woman needs to ask herself, “Who would I be if I wasn’t a mother fixing or taking care of someone and how do I balance my giving with receiving?”

The career man needs to ask himself, “Who would I be if I wasn’t in charge and nobody owed me anything and how can I get closer to my wife?”

So each one wants to honor their relationship and no one is taught the skills of how. Behavioral Iridology gives us a map, which gives us knowledge, which gives us information and offers us a plan to what it takes to increase the quality of your intimate relationship.